Drunk mother? Well in fact my mom is an achuholic (sp?) and i hate it! shes been liek it since i was lil she used to thret me that she woudl hurt me when i was littler like 10 liek one memorie was my dad was out and i dont know what ticked her off but i did something and she pushed me against the wall and pulled my hair , slapped me and screamed at me then my dad came home and she yelled " your lucky this time " and i cannot get this out of my head every time she drinks , she a lil better now she doesnt abuse me its jsut words that hurt me and i admitt it i kinda push her cuz i can be annoying but i just play around! she takes calming pills and ahe always blames me ( im the reason i guess that she takes them) and im the reason that she drinks i guess , :[ idk we alwasy gets in fights when she gets drunk sometime i cant ahndle it ! iv went to the conculair but they didnt do ****! and ive tryed to get her help but she wont at all! - ill write more in details |
Number one thing to remember. Her drinking is not your fault. Oh yeah, she is going to try to blame it on you. But its not. Even if you were not there, she would still be an alcoholic. You need to go to Al-Anon and find out how to deal with living with an alcoholic and how to stop blaming yourself also. Because now it sound like you believe it to. See addicts never want to take responsibility, its always someone else. And you are the easiest target. You need to learn how to stop reacting to her. I know this is easier said than done, however I have been in this type of situation and you will be surprised once you decide this is her problem and hers alone how much better you will feel. You can't fix this for her. This is not your responsibility, its hers. Hand it back to her and begin to heal from all the abuse she has been heaping upon you. How old are you by the way?
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Wow, tough age. You probably get so mad because for you, you feel like if she loved you enough she would just stop drinking. But, for an alcoholic its not that easy. She needs to go into rehab in order to get sober. Many people just do not have the ability to stop drinking on their own. You at 14, however, don't have a lot of control over making or insisting that she do that. Your Grandma and/or your Dad should be the ones that insist she go into rehab and get help. They really need to step in and help you out in all of this. You should not be subjucted to this at all. I really wish I had better answers, but you really have to understand that this is not your fault and you have no control over this situation. You do have control over yourself and how you react to this however. You need to go to the groups everyone has mentioned and talk to your counselor at school. |
What to do about drunk mother molesting her guy? Yes, it's terrible but I saw it and several times. Too bad to be true! This drunk mother was touching her 5-year-old guy in places you wouldn't believe and every time the mother got near the guy, she would scream in desperation: Don't touch me! even if it was only for a hug. I want to do something to help the guy but I am seriously afraid of reprisal in ways that I do not wish to get into here. How can I do this anonymously? Should I call the little girl's school? |
| one needs to call the authorities, guy protective services on her..the guy needs to be protected now. Do the right thing, call the authorities or you will get yourself in trouble for not reporting such abuses..it is the law to report any guy abuse |
What can happen if the mother is drunk at the moment of conception? We all know what happens to the baby when the mother drinks during her pregnancy, but what about if the mom had sex while drunk and got pregnant from that night? Would there be any harm done to the baby? |
| I wouldnt think so alot of women end up pregnant while being drunk the night of conception and i have never heard of anything being wrong with the baby so yeah i would have to go with prrob not. |
It IS emotionally damaging for a guy to see her mother drunk, right? I must've seen my mom drunk over a hundred times, and she's picked me up from school once or twice in that state. I just have gotten so used to it I just don't seem to think too much of it. I still hate it, but I've just given up trying to do anything about it. I need some confirmation. |
| yes, it's emotionally scarring :( |
How would the 'Duty to Rescue" be applied regarding a drunk mother breastfeeding an infant? infant safety |
Instead of opinion I did some quick research:
"Alcohol (ethanol) passes quickly into breast milk and may reach levels equal to or higher than the mother's alcohol blood level. However, alcohol is not "trapped" in breast milk and will return into the mother's bloodstream as the mother's alcohol blood level decreases [1]. Overall a breast fed infant would be expected to receive about 6 percent of the maternal dose of alcohol after moderate social drinking [2]."
www.obfocus.com/nutrition/alcohol…
Here is another source:
" "Breastfeeding mothers should avoid the use of alcoholic beverages, because alcohol is concentrated in breast milk and its use can inhibit milk production. An occasional celebratory single, small alcoholic drink is acceptable, but breastfeeding should be avoided for 2 hours after the drink.""
www.kellymom.com/health/lifestyle…
Here is a link to a calculator to determine how long you have to wait before breastfeeding after consuming different amounts of alcohol:
www.obfocus.com/calculators/alcoh…
The gist of the information is that you should use the same rules about drinking and breastfeeding as (hopefully) you are using regarding drinking and driving. |
Can an infant who is nursing become intoxicated if their mother is drunk? Do the alcoholic beverages effect her breast milk? This is a hypothetical question. |
| Yes the baby gets whaqtever is in the mothers body. She should either wait to breastfeed, pump and dump, or just wait to drink until the baby isn't breastfeeding anymore. |
What can I do to help my boyfriend's anger with his mother when she is drunk and calling him names? what can I do to help my boyfriend become less angry and stressed out when his alcoholic mother screams at him, calls him names, and demeans him when she is drinking. He tends to yell and scream back and get very angry, what can i do to help him be calm and over all less stressed out? we live in the same house. I know moving out seems like the right idea but that is not an option right now. |
| He can try avoiding, when his mother calls him names, thats a sign to get out of the house quickly, stressing causes pain to much, it really hurts to be called names like that especially from his mother. I sawed this all on a tv show, it wasn't pretty either, so just avoid it, take a walk, take a breathe, comfont him, tell him everything will be ok, save up together, for an apartment. |
Ok my cousin Casey's step mother is a drunk how can i get her moved in with me legally? ok my cousin is living in a broken home her step mother is constantly drinking and her dad is constantly on drugs. casey finally got fed up with it and went to my aunts house tonight because she couldn't handle it anymore. shes 16 and wont be able to legally move out until next month but im really worried about her, how can i get her out of that house and into mine without having to deal with legal stuff? your advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks. |
unless her mother is willing to let her move in with you, the only way you'd be able to do it is an emancipation and that'll take longer than a month and involve a lot of time and money
you'd be better off to call a social worker, or someone along the same lines, and see what they say and find out what you can do about it
and I'm sorry to hear about her that's really an unfortunate situation |
Does anyone else find it awkward when your mother is drunk? Do you find it hard to deal with? How do you handle it? |
| ~yes, this is very hard to deal with. Your mother is the one you always expect to be the protector, the one with the right answers, but when you see them drunk, they are out of control and incapable of taking care of you or themselves. I know this is very hard. I answered your other question about your mother. Please be patient with her. You never know what she is going through. Be there for her. Maybe it's time for you to be the strong one~ |